Do or Don't ....... yes I do..please...

Take and Give...

This phrase is quite familiar for us, and also found at our daily activity.

There is a satisfaction if you are become one of them or both of them.. :), but it is perfect to be both of them, because it is not so comfortable if you always receive things from someone and vice verse.

Human is created to be socialize, and therefore, satisfaction can be reached if you becoming a taking person and also giving person.

Visit and Visited

Once when I was single, I did not realize about this behave. I used to be egoism and like to spend my time alone at my room, watching TV, hang out alone and just calling friends and family when I just feel like to call.

Now, after married..I know how happy that we are being visited and also going to visit my family and friends.

May be when I was single and had nothing to discuss and thought that others might be disturbing if I just came and made annoying somehow.. :)

But, spending our spare time with family and friends really make us refreshing mind when we back to work.

I also understand that we need sometimes to be alone and can not be disturbed with anyone, because we need to recall deep in our mind and heart what am I going to do, what should I do and what can make me happy..

Reading partner gesture

Being sensitive is good enough to read the situation faster, sometimes our partner doesn't show much and act that he is rejected and disappointed with our saying, our act and our react. Normally, egoism will drive us to be rude and ignoring, these acts can cause irritate for someone else which is related to the cause of your act. So if you think calmly and act think-fully, so I believe that we can relieve the stress that caused of your negative behave onward.

Dear Non-Pregnant Person

Just read from someone blog...http://cisayong-girl.blogspot.com/

This is really useful information for all pregnant and non pregnant women...

Dear Non-Pregnant Person, 

I hope you find these guidelines helpful in your interactions with pregnant women as failing to follow them may result in serious physical harm. If you are thinking, surely she doesn't mean me- then you should probably read this twice:

1) The appropriate response to a couple telling you they are having a baby is 'Congratulations!' with enthusiasm. Any other response makes you an a$$.

2) Through the wonders of science, we now know that babies are made ONLY by the mother and father- not grandparents. Unless the baby is in your uterus or you are the man that helped put it there, you may not ever use the phrase 'my baby'.

3) On the same note, unless you made the baby as defined in #2, the pregnancy, birth and raising of the child are not about you. You do not have input. No one wants to hear your opinion unless they ask for it.

4) The body of a pregnant women should be treated the same as any other body. You would not randomly touch someone's stomach if they were not pregnant, nor would you inquire into the condition of their uterus, cervix or how they plan to use their breasts. Pregnancy does not remove all traces of privacy from a woman.

5) Likewise, no woman wants to hear comments on her weight- ever. A pregnant woman does not find it flattering that you think she is about is pop, must be having twins, looks swollen or has gained weight in her face. Telling her she looks too small only makes her worry that she is somehow starving her baby. Making such comments invite her to critique your physical appearance and you may not act offended. The only acceptable comment on appearance is 'You look fabulous!'.

6) By the time we are 20-30 years old, most of us have picked up on the fact that the summer is hot. We are hot every summer when we are not pregnant. We don't need you to point out that we will be miserably hot before the baby comes.

7) There is a reason that tickets to L&D are not yet sold on Ticket master. Childbirth is actually not a public event. It may sound crazy, but some women really do not relish the idea of their mother, MIL or a host of other family members seeing their bare butt and genitals. Also, some people simply feel like the birth of their child is a private and emotional moment to be shared only by the parents.

8) Like everything else is life, unless you receive an invitation, you are NOT invited. This includes doctor appointments, ultrasounds, labor, delivery, the hospital and the parents' home. You do not decide if you will be there for the birth or if you will move in with the new parents to 'help out'. If your assistance is desired, rest assured that you will be asked for it.

9) If you are asked to help after the birth, this means you should clean up the house, help with cooking meals, and generally stay out of the way. Holding the baby more than the parents, interfering with breastfeeding and sleeping schedules and making a woman who is still leaking fluid from multiple locations lift a finger in housework is not helping.

10) The only people entitled to time with the baby are the parents. Whether they choose to have you at the hospital for the birth or ask for you to wait three weeks to visit, appreciate that you are being given the privilege of seeing their child.

***Complaining or showing disappointment only encourages the parents to include you less.***

Sincerely, 

All pregnant ladies in the world!

 

Achievement in 2012

In every year coming in.. We will always hope to be better and be the best...

I also realize that I have hopes that I may reach, I don't want to fantasize too much that I am willing to have something that impossible to get them.

Glance I read "Today about" as the same what I have thought for this year are:

Eating Better

To organize good food for my healthy body and mind.. 

I might to have some listings of menu that I want to prepare for family's menu which are good for me, hubby and kids and also can maintain the cheap and nutrient recipe of course, because as mom I also have to contribute such habit to family so we can at least have a spare for holiday.. Hopes :)

I think I also need a little bit looking up to my neighbor's recipes ^^ instead of searching it at the searching engine. Just for taking time to get the greatest combination recipes and ideas.. hmmm.. ;)

Reading more

I still have many outstanding books to be read, but just can't get much time to read it.

I think I have to be manageable to diversify the time so I have a lot of time to read and more concentrate in reading of any books

Procrastination less

The root of delay of achievement is procrastination.

I believe as the human being, we have this habit and really difficult to maintain it sometimes.

I understand that moody also influence our willing to do or not do the goals, but need more spirit to avoid such a bad habit.

Be more religious

I like to become more religious, I found peaceful minded in this activity. 

Being religious is good to make us to be humble, patient, and down to earth minded,

so all the arrogance, ignorance, rudeness, jealousy, selfish and others negative behaves, hope can be maintained well. Inshaallah :)

Japanese language learning target

As working in Japanese Company, I am motivated to be fluent in this language, I believe that I will have many advantages if I can speak and write well in Japanese. But I realize that learning Japanese is not such a learning English that we had been learning it from schools and also many media helped us in improve it.

But I believe that someday I can speak a little bit Japanese to my manager and it is not just greeting as I did before.. Ganbatte ne!

More frequently to update this blog

Making a blog is a good place to practice our writing skill, to be more confident in express the idea and just for fun :) sometimes. I realize that am not a good writer and I am not a good English Writer, as my willing to make my own blog to share what is in my mind and to collect few or many useful information from others blog or website, so it can be useful for me or others, and I also committed that mostly language on this blog I will write it in English, may be mainly for practicing my English in writing and I also wanted to spread the story of mine if someone other than my country willing to read my story so they can understand it well, cause English is an International Language. Are you agree :)

Okay, I think that is for all my target which is crossing in my  mind.. hopefully I can be working with them well.. 

Happy New Year 2012...^__^

Today is the first day of January 2012..

Today is Sunday..

Today is sunny day...

I am not going anywhere...

I am spending my time with my family at home today...

I am cooking, washing, ironing, cleaning... etc..etc...

Wow, it looks that I do the things as usual...

But there is still in my mind that I have many wishes and more wishes.. for upcoming days in this year...

Being good to the great...Amiin..

Happy New Year 2012... :)

Ramadhan Mubarak.. :)

Fasting.. fasting...

This month is been waiting for Moslem….it is come once in a year…

There are so many sources written and unwritten telling about the advantages of fasting…

Such as below:  > from http://www.allaboutfasting.com/ 

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Fasting for Natural Healing 

A guide to awakening your body's own healing mechanisms.

Fasting is a completely natural healing therapy that has been used for thousands of years to aid, treat, and even cure many common maladies. It creates the same healing effects today.

And while modern medicine so often attempts to alleviate outer symptoms of a health condition, fasting affects healing from the inside out, getting to the actual source of the condition, helping to burn inferior cells and build new healthier cells and tissues.

Our bodies are capable of instigating their own perfect healing if we allow them the opportunity. Fasting is such an opportunity.

What can fasting do for you?

• heal a host of minor (and sometimes major) health disorders
• help you lose weight and keep it off
• cleanse your body of metabolic wastes and toxins
• improve your skin tone and health, making you look younger
• stimulate new cell growth, making you feel younger
• strengthen your immune system and natural defenses
• improve glandular health and hormonal balance
• increase mental clarity
• enhance your moods, enjoy a more positive outlook
• give you more energy and enthusiasm
• enhance your spiritual connection

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So many advantages that we can get if we do fasting... Then we have to do with happiness and thankful to Allah Almighty for this month come by. Hopefully we do it well and all sins are deleted.. Amiin :)

Well in practice, to prepare without having food, drink and meal in a day, we have to have good food at *sahur* time ( sahur is time for awake to have foods, suggestion completed with, carbohydrate like rice, bread;-, dishes with high protein like beef, chicken,fish, egg;- vegetables, fruits and milk..@ 3-4.30 am in the morning before Subuh pray come over ).

During a day, we have to increase our faith to religion, avoid anything which can make sins. Being good attitude.. avoid negative thinking.. it will be easy and healthy mind.. right..? :)

When the breakfasting come over, we have to prepare for breakfasting food. There are so many temptations before breakfasting time come over, once we glanced to "shocked market" which selling all kind of foods for breakfasting... from appetizers, mixed fruits ice milk, fried noodles, traditional appetizers, dishes, etc.. wow..feel like to buy them all. Actually, once we break with kurma or a glass of tea or glass of ice syrup.. drinking liquid water.. feel it all enough.. all the appetizers mood has gone :).. oh what a temptation.. :p

After all, doing all good in Ramadhan moon, and even after this month, keep being good.. healthy wealthy life...

Happy Ramadhan... :)

Miserable feeling in the morning

In daily work, we used to be busy with all the same activity. We never realize that time has just gone like wind’s flowing. But have you ever thought that what have you done and any useful meaning you have reached.

Once I reached office, this thought always come in my mind, like others, I never been satisfied for anything what I have, I have a lot of dreams that I want to reach, some its easy to reach and some its very difficult, need more patients and times. But after all we have to look down and check out about our self. Anyway, actually if we compare, what the things that you have now, for others than down on you will be quite enough, but when you see up on you, you will think that you still have nothing.

Go back to “zikir” and remember about Allah SWT, the good medicine for us to be a humble person. Recently I feel more religious and had made me comfortable. I like to watch this world wide, how small you are. Then you don’t need to be proud of yourself. You are very small creature, no power if compare this wild world wide. But we have own life that we need to fight, then the spirit will appear immediately :).

As usual, my hubby only drops me to Legenda Malaka bus station, and then I will go my self to office with using public transportation. In the bus, we can see and think, look at around us. Once I glance to person who selling newspaper at the traffic jams. I look over this person. She is about 30-40 years I think, but her face looks that she is already in fifties. I think that how lucky I am, I have a job, good family and we have own budget for our monthly needs, yet we still able to buy something for refreshing. Then glance I saw Toyota Rush passing around. I think that how rich that man, they might be living at Sukajadi or Dutamas, or other real estate complex in this town, and bla bla… ohh.. I wish I could have that Toyota Rush too and become rich……:) :)

Anyhow, other than rich, happiness is number one, and also feeling of acceptance or "Syukur to Allah".. are the root of good living. How happy you are… how wonderful life is...

PMS

Premenstrual syndrome (PMS) (also called PMT or premenstrual tension) is a collection of physical and emotional symptoms related to a woman's menstrual cycle. While most women of child-bearing age (up to 85%) report having experienced physical symptoms related to normal ovulatory function, such as bloating or breast tenderness, medical definitions of PMS are limited to a consistent pattern of emotional and physical symptoms occurring only during the luteal phase of the menstrual cycle that are of "sufficient severity to interfere with some aspects of life".^[1] In particular, emotional symptoms must be present consistently to diagnose PMS. The specific emotional and physical symptoms attributable to PMS vary from woman to woman, but each individual woman's pattern of symptoms is predictable, occurs consistently during the ten days prior to menses, and vanishes either shortly before or shortly after the start of menstrual flow.

Symptoms;-

More than 200 different symptoms have been associated with PMS, but the three most prominent symptoms are irritability, tension, and dysphoria (unhappiness).^[1] Common emotional and non-specific symptoms include stress, anxiety, difficulty in falling asleep (insomnia), headache, fatigue, mood swings, increased emotional sensitivity, and changes in libido.^[3] Formal definitions absolutely require the presence of emotional symptoms as the chief complaint; the presence of exclusively physical symptoms associated with the menstrual cycle, such as bloating, abdominal cramps, constipation, swelling or tenderness in the breasts, cyclic acne, and joint or muscle pain—no matter how disruptive these physical symptoms are—is not considered PMS.

Source from : Wikipedia

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I am writing about this PMS due to this is 99% correct for my self. I want that my spouse understand us well about these signs. Hence, he always forgot about this almost of the time, actually I am not the perfect person who can manage my feeling ( acting like an adult -"always" ), and I am not the one who can keep my anger feeling whenever I dislike them.

As the symptoms said:

"Irritability"

I am not that much irritated for this sign coming in, but I do when we have a little argue with my hubby.. Then I can become annoying to tell so many stories out of our point of view on the previous argue.. uff.

"Tension"

I am with this feeling a lot.. Anything become wrong in the house which actually for normal time, I am not bothering with them at all..

"Dysphoria"

I am the one who like to feel unhappy for uncertain reason. I hate this feeling and have been trying to make it disappear with reading books, listening music, being busy wih works. But sometimes I really give up with it. But I think with reading status from friends at FB, playing some games and chatting with friends will make it better.. hmm

Actually I prefer to call my hubby at his work and talking for nothing, He doesn’t like it, he will think it is not the right time. I believe that he thinks that I will try to pursue him for buying something which is not really urgent to own it.. ( hmm wrong perception ).

"Stress & Anxiety"

Most of the women easy for being stress and you can notify it from her surface, and I read from some sources, woman is easy to get stress even it caused only by simple thing. Stress can come anytime, i.e. basically we intend to be stressed when pocket is empty, nothing for shopping, don’t think this is a freaky, but I think woman like to go shopping when she is in not comfortable emotion.

“Difficulty in falling asleep (insomnia), headache, fatigue, mood swings, increased emotional sensitivity, and changes in libido.^[3] Formal definitions absolutely require the presence of emotional symptoms as the chief complaint; the presence of exclusively physical symptoms associated with the menstrual cycle, such as bloating, abdominal cramps, constipation, swelling or tenderness in the breasts, cyclic acne, and joint or muscle pain “

#These above symptoms are absolutely correct for my self, but I realize that I don’t want to be involved much and depend on those feelings and signs, just walking it away and we can pass them smoothly.